I’m looking forward to getting to know you.

Here’s a bit about me.

My reserved mother learned to swim in her late 50’s, was a passionate volunteer and enthusiastic traveller in her 60′ and 70’s and practiced yoga into her 80’s. She was not an easy mum but I always admired and was inspired by her willingness to engage in her life.  She taught me that we’re never too old to stop learning, growing, being creative, experimenting and adventuring!

My career has been an absorbing part of my life. All along I’ve been learning and teaching what I most needed and wanted to know. The kinds of things that I didn’t learn at home or in school as a kid. Practical skills such as how to manage my anxiety; how to be more self compassionate; what it takes to live well and kindly in relationships.

 

 

I became a meditator in my twenties and turned to the wisdom of the Tao Te Ching for advice on how to live a good life. I carried a battered copy of that book in my back jeans pocket as a nursing student. I’ve felt incredibly fortunate to live at a time in human history when such wisdom is literally at my fingertips. I’m a Reiki practitioner. I’m in awe of and facinated by the ability of the human spirit to transcend seemingly unbeatable odds.

That facination drew me from an undergraduate degree in drawing and painting to a ten year career as a registered nurse. The medical model as it was practiced  in the late 70’s and I were not a good fit. I became more and more interested in discovering and supporting the patient’s own wisdom rather than medicating. I went back to school and got a master’s degree in counselling psychology and followed that up with postgraduate studies in  body-oriented therapies. I’ve enjoyed a thirty year career as a counsellor and psychotherapist in private practice.  I’m excited to be entering a new phase now as I transition to an online coaching practice supporting retirees through their big transition. Once again, teaching what I need to learn!

Today I am grateful to be nurtured and sustained in a web of loving, caring and kind relationships, family, friends and community, connections that have grown and been nourished over the years. The photograph at the top of this page is an example of this weaving. It’s my daughter’s wedding, officiated by my dear friend who is my daughter’s godmother. My ex and I are escorting our only child to her soon to be husband and our soon to be son-in-law.

I find myself awestruck by the ordinary these days. Photosynthesis seems miraculous. I think it’s later life adult development showing up….

I love to sing. My fantasies of singing into a mic have far outstripped my actual performance as I have tucked myself into choirs. Now I have a wonderful teacher who is championing me to get out of my own way and let-er-rip solo.

I camp and kayak – but differently than I did when I was younger.  Now I glamp with a tent I can stand up in and sleep on a folding cot. My kayak is no longer a sleek ocean goer, but rather a sturdy blow-up that I can carry myself.

Three years ago I self published a book called “One Choice at a Time: A Practical Guide to Well-Being”. It had taken me three years to write and it marked a sea change from my work as a counselor and psychotherapist to developing a coaching practice and working more on line.

May we all enter the delights and challenges of the next stage of our lives with wisdom, compassion and infinite curiosity.

 

“I can’t say enough wonderful things about Susan Farling’s skills. She is compassionate, perceptive, observant, pragmatic and creative. I’d recommend her to anyone.” – artist in her sixties